How to Save a Life

Friendship; we all know what it is and we have all experienced it. However, how has the definition changed over the years? In this day, it seems like people refer to friends as those who they talk to or spend time with. Friends seem to be referred to as people whom you have something in common with and get along with. As all this is true to what a friend is, there is more to it. There is a lot to being a friend that many of us have forgotten over the years.

Part of being a friend is loyalty and understanding, honesty and encouragement. Its about doing what makes each other happy and trying not to hurt each other. Its a relationship between two or more people. You don’t want to betray it or lose it. A lot of us forget all this. We forget that our friends don’t know everything about us. We forget everything we have been through with our friends. So when we have a fight, we leave those friends behind and we forget where our loyalties should have been. We lose our understanding of them and their feelings and again, we leave our real friends behind, we hurt them.

Its hard sometimes, especially as we get older, to remember the feelings of others as we get older. We lose trust in them through fights and disagreements. We are going through our own problems and our own lives. We forget who is really going to be there for us in the end. We are thinking too much about ourselves and don’t usually realize it until its too late.

I think that many of us should take a step back and away from ourselves and our disagreements with others. We should look at our friends, especially those that we’re not getting along with. We should look at them and think everything through. Take a moment to remember the roses you smelt together and the times you two laid in the grass watching the clouds. This means that you should take the time to remember all of the good and bad times that you two have been through together. Remember what you both have done for each other. Its important for us to remind ourselves of this sometimes, because we can forget.

Take a moment to ask yourself, is the disagreement worth the lose of a friendship? I would say no.

Friends will always be there for you if they’re real friends. So don’t push them away. Hold your friends close and they’ll hold you close too. If you two are having a disagreement or something they’re doing is bothering you, then you should take some time off and keep them at a distance for a little bit. Take some time to remember the good times, then go back and talk to them. Talk it over with them and work it out. Remember, your friends may have a lot in common with you, but they can’t read your mind. They don’t know what they’re doing wrong until you tell them.

I should say one more thing to this also. When you talk to them about what they’re doing that upsets you, you need to find out what you do that upsets them too. You both have to make changes for each other and for your friendship. Your friend has to make the effort and so you do. That’s what friends do, they work together.

Take a bit of time and remember the roses. Don’t let a perfectly good friendship go just because you both had a disagreement or two. You both may be going through a rough patch, but its for that exact reason that you need to be there for each other. You need to work things out, together, so you can help each other through the hardships that really matter in life.