Honest and Integrity

When I started off on this journey I had one and only one goal in mind, to help those who are struggling out of the situations they are in. I didn’t reveal every last detail of my life. I didn’t tell people about my family or whats happening in my life. I didn’t tell people of my kids, my parents, my ex, where I live, how much money I do or don’t make, or anything else. I didn’t see it as being relevant to the matter at hand, which is simply helping other people who are struggling to get out of their situations. Perhaps this was an error in my judgement or perhaps it was out of my own self need to protect those who are dearest to me.

In some ways I perhaps over spoke some truths and some people took the things I said a bit to literally. I have a tendency to exaggerate things a bit and I suppose some people who are not Savoy to internet marketing and business may have mistaken my exaggerations as absolutes. So today I want to clear a few things up, and end some issues I have had on this journey. Before I do however I want to tell you some of my journey so far and what has lead me to this post.

I started this journey walking US route 20 heading from the border of New York and Massachusetts about 20 miles east of Albany New York heading towards Hammond Indiana. Hammond was my first official stop, because I was contacted by Rob of todayhaspower.com with a story of struggle that he would rather not be shared. I met a lot of great people on that trip but I will share those adventures slowly as I release my journal. One thing I will say is I cheated a bit. In Erie Pa I ran into a major hail storm and got pelted by hail the size of quarters. I decided at that point to take a bus.

Actually as I said in my original post, I didn’t bring any money with me what so ever. I wanted to actually live as someone on the street lives. So I sat outside a gas station holding a sign asking for a ride. Not one person offered me a ride, but PLENTY of people offered me money. So over the course of a few hours I earned up enough to get a bus ticket. So I took a bus the rest of the way to Indiana. When I got their, I contacted Rob to come pick me up.

My intent, as was written on my blog, was to stay a few days and then continue on my journey. I was going to teach Rob and his family enough to understand marketing and then move on. However within a few hours of being there it was made clear they wanted to learn ALL I could teach. They invited me to stay not a few days but a few weeks. Being how Rob was in a tight spot, I figured perhaps it would be most beneficial if I took him up on that offer. Not because I needed his help, but because he needed mine.

That was perhaps my first error in judgement. I never should have done that. I did teach him as much as I could that he would understand, and it definitely did help him, although he has not yet seen major return from it. I am hoping by now he has at least sold a few ebooks, but many of the tools I showed him, required a small investment so after the trial of the softwares ran out, he couldn’t use them. It may have been a full waste of time for me to show him some of those tools. I suppose live and learn and move on. It is as much a learning experience for me as for those I am helping. He did hain a lot of knowledge and understanding about some seo tricks though. So overall I think I did help him.

After the first week at robs, which went GREAT, things started to get, less pleasant. It quickly became clear he had an issue with the way I was handling my journey and what I was doing. So much so that he started to doubt the things I was telling him. He began to doubt how much or how little money I make. I think that was in part because I had no money with me and I did things like go out on the street and get people to give me money to buy my cigarettes. I think he viewed such things as me abusing those who had less then I did, and why would I do that if I make the kind of money I make. I think the idea of living as the homeless do evaded him.

It also became clear he didn’t think the things I was teaching was worth my staying at his house and eating his food. Many people left comments about how I was “teaching a man to fish”, however Rob seemed to want me not only to teach how to fish, but also to fish alongside him and give him my fish. That just wasn’t going to happen. So after the first week, things started to really go downhill. I was called a liar more during my stay there then I have in my entire life. Rob and his wife started doubting every last thing I told them from the kind of money I make to where I live.

The things I exaggerated about, they kept referring to as “lies” and saying people wouldn’t know when I was telling the truth and when I was exaggerating. Oh please if someone doesn’t realize I am exaggerating when I say its 5000 degrees outside, then they are beyond help. Then they started lecturing me about God and truth. I found that to be the most rich of things they could have said. These are people who make up testimonials and purport to have made a lot more money then they make.

Don’t get me wrong I do believe that Rob is a very intelligent person. I do believe that Rob is a very empowering person. I believe his ebook is outstanding and one of a kind. I believe anyone who follows him and his advice will have a much fuller and richer life. I believe this because I have seen his family in action and he lives what he talks about. It just hasn’t earned him financial freedom at this point. However I don’t think anyone has the right to call me a liar when in fact they are being dishonest themselves. I strongly encourage all of the people who follow me to buy into his ebook How to get anything you want.

One of the big problems was Rob took something I exaggerated about all to literally. I assumed people involved with internet marketing and those reading my blog would understand I was exaggerating when I said it, but Rob didn’t understand that, so I want to make it clear for others who are reading my blog. I made a comment on my original post about teaching people “instant gratification type methods”. Now when I said this I assumed people reading it would understand the words “instant gratification” are completely relative to what most marketers deem as “the amount of time needed to start an internet business”. See most people will tell you it takes years to create a successful business online. The methods I teach, take a few months to learn and after you have a good understanding of them, take a few weeks to make money from.

Rob didn’t understand this, and I didn’t understand Robs lack of internet marking knowledge. In fact when he first asked me how long it would take to see a return, I said something to the effect of two weeks at most. That was largely due to the fact I expected him to pick up on my methods a lot quicker than he has. In fact he still lacks a vast understanding of many of the methods I showed him. He still doesn’t understand the logic or marketing involved with safelists, text ad exchanges, or surf exchanges. This makes things a lot harder for him and makes it appear to him as though I am a liar.

Okay so after that first week, when he started to doubt anything and everything I had said, he started to do some things that were completely unacceptable in my book. He started trying to investigate me as a person, which within and of itself matters little to me. The truth is he didn’t have the technical know how to find out much of anything about me. I am well hidden from the radar from most ways of researching a person. He couldn’t find anything at all really.

He didn’t find out I once owned a website named alternativealbany.com He didn’t find out that website was not a pornographic site, but rather a site that taught people how to live consenting dominant submissive lifestyles. He never learned of my involvement with sites like collarme.com or of fetlife.com. He had, I would have been asked to leave a lot sooner then I left. But he didn’t find out these things. Likewise he didn’t find out about my myspace account where I discuss in great detail some legal issues I had when I helped a 16 year old run away (I thought she was in an abusive household and I helped her get to a shelter so don’t mistake this or take it out of context).

Because he never found out any of these things, he tried to look ion different ways to learn about me. He actually started going through my emails because I left my email account logged in when I went for a walk at some point. THAT is when things took a turn for the worse. He started finding out things I had never shared with him and he started making assumptions because of them. He started questioning if I was in fact homeless instead of just on a journey. He started to question about why my ex and her new fiancé live with my parents and why my parents have custody of my children.

When I explained things to him as much as I would, he said the trust had already been broken and therefore he doubted what I said. In fact, I was basically told unless I opened up my bank account and proved how much I made, I wouldn’t be believed what so ever. Well as I said from day one, thats just never going to happen. Whether my account has $1 or $10,000,000 is no ones business but my own. Not even my family knows exactly how much I do or don’t make. They have an idea but no exact figures.

As if these things were not enough, there seem to be some complications with one of my traffic building methods – that of free traffic system. It seems some of the blog owners go back and remove the “third” link from articles, a link that is supposed to be my link as the person who referred a member, and replaced my link with that of adult product links. Things like viagra. I have no control over these blogs so I can’t stop that from happening, but Rob believed I was in fact the one adding the links. So he believes he was lied to even more. I have a feeling he will remove himself from my downline and find out first hand its not me doing this, but rather the bloggers – and when that happens perhaps he will begin to believe the things I have said, but who knows, he is a person who has big time trust issues. Anyways….

After that two weeks was up, I planned to leave, but some complications arose with the people I had planned to visit. So I asked Rob to stay a few extra days. In all I stayed with his family 19 days. 2 weeks and 5 days (although they think it was 3 weeks and 5 days my journal tells me exactly how long I was there). I was there from June 5 until June until June 24. Even though I had full intention to leave on Friday June 24 Rob and his wife felt the need to ask me to leave a few hours early. I was mainly only staying to say goodbye to his children. So I left Robs on a sour note. I felt betrayed he invaded my personal emails, he felt I lied to him.

None the less I believe I walked away having achieved my goal. Rob learned enough from me to become successful online if he so desires. I suppose I can’t expect everyone I encounter on this journey will I have the best of connections with, but I rarely find people who don’t trust me. My knowledge generally speaks for itself. This was just one of those instances where things didn’t turn out for the best.

However now I am in Michigan staying at a hotel paid for by Daniel Pricopio. He is a great person but not having the struggling others have. He makes a good deal of money in sales, he just wants to learn more about online sales and marketing because what he does is largely offline. He is vastly interested in social marketing so I have no doubt this stay will also be eventful. However, just like was the case on my way to Robs, I have had a GREAT experience on the road with the people I have met and I have definitely helped a lot of people during the in between travels. THAT was my ultimate goal. So I am achieving it. But as is the case with the first trip, I will slowly release those as I release my journal entries.

After this I am returning home to visit my kids for a few weeks before continuing on. I believe I will be headed either towards Texas or towards Florida after this. I am just hoping to find more places to stay in between because right now I have limited offers. I suppose time will tell.