child abuse(kelsey brigg's story) a sad story you could never forget

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before i type the story i just want you to know that you can go on youtube.com and type in kelsey briggs and also see the story there if you dont want to read this...

The Family of Kelsey Briggs has contacted me about their story. I have tried to put together, with what they have given me, something that tells a little about their story. Understand this is a condensed version and I hope you will take the time to read it.

The visits were going okay until Jan 8th when the mother, and ex-wife, did not show up with Kelsey. I, Kelsey’s Grandma, tried to locate her, but my calls were not returned.

When the mother finally showed up with Kelsey she explained Kelsey had fallen off her bed and broke her clavicle.

When the family got there and started to change her they noticed 29 bruises and multiple abrasions. The police were called and she was taken to the ER. The Meeker police were also called and they were to call DHHS. They determined it was an accident and forced us to give her back.

We went to court on Feb 4th and we received guardianship. The mother tried to point the finger at my son. It was determined he could not have done these injuries in the three hour window. The mother was ordered by DHHS to take Anger Management, Parenting Classes, and Drug and Alcohol Assessment. The mother was given supervised visitation with Kelsey three days per week; previously she was given unsupervised visitation.

Several times she came home with some bruises and we documented all of them and had people look her over for our protection. Our attorney advised us to do this since the mother had a history of accusing others. In March, she came home with a bruised nose and as the day went on, it swelled up, so I took her to the ER and they called DHHS.

When Lance, the father, came home, we had just picked Kelsey up and noticed she had bruises, so my daughter-in-law called DHHS so that they would not think Lance had done it.

On Apr 14th , the mother returned Kelsey to me with a sprained ankle and later her mother picked her up for her weekend. This is where the nightmare begins…On Mon the 25th the caseworker called and said the mother would be late bringing Kelsey home. She was in their office and both of Kelsey’s legs were swollen and hot to touch. The mother said that was how she was four days earlier when she picked her up. I had no idea what they were talking about and they just kept talking to me as if I knew she was injured this badly. Several teachers and the school nurse had seen Kelsey thirty minutes before she was picked up, and I told them to call them to verify she was fine. She stated they told the mother to take her to the doctor. Two hours later they called to say both of her legs were broken. The Doctor in Shawnee stated the first one must have been a missed diagnosis of the sprained ankle and the second one was a stress fracture from over compensation. They did not suspect abuse. I spoke to the Doctor myself and she assured me this was not unusual. We found out later this Doctor was the sister of the Attorney for the mother.

Second opinion: Dr. Sullivan told us that Kelsey did not have toddler fractures, and they were not stress fractures, but that some one had broken Kelsey’s legs. I did not know at the time that he had already showed the x-rays, that I had provided, to two other Doctor’s for their opinion and they all agreed.

I called Lincoln County DHHS the following morning to tell them what the Doctor said. That afternoon they called and wanted us to bring Kelsey to them and were placing her in a foster home. Meanwhile, my son beeped in and I told them I needed to talk to Lance; please call back in five minutes. My son had just landed in Germany and was leaving for Kuwait.

The next day after letting us worry all night we were told they gave her to the maternal Grandmother. We went for a just cause hearing and it was determined that the broken legs could have happened at either house and since the mother had pointed a finger at us she could not be left in our home.

My husband and I were given 4 hours per week of supervised visitation at the DHHS office for the next month; the mother was given the same thing. During this time, DHHS was conducting an investigation. We provided them with names of people who saw Kelsey the day she was at my house and they never contacted any of them. My grown daughter and her two children had moved in with us and she called them and asked to be interviewed. The school nurse finally contacted them, as well as my aunt that had been at my house. They never contacted me for an interview so I, finally, called them and the case worker only asked me questions about the visitation schedule. They had interviewed my husband after the just cause hearing, for a few minutes.

The case worker also recommended that Kelsey be given back to the mother and we get one hour supervised visitation per month. She also recommended my son be given the same visitation when he returns

The DHHS report was given to our attorney when court started. We were shocked at some of the things in it. There were many allegations made towards my son, his wife, and myself; that were unbelievable. The interviews from most of our family were either missing or partially reported. Our attorney, after looking over the report, believed the judge would have to rule in our favor.

The next morning Judge Craig Key came in, and without explanation, dissolved the guardianship. He stated that he over ruled anything the DHHS recommended, and he was returning the child to the mother. None of the grandparents would be allowed to see her. It is very difficult not being able to see our Granddaughter, but it is harder for my son.

At this time, I was fighting to clear my son’s name in this case, because they have him listed as an alleged perpetrator. He was not even here during any of these injuries. I feel they are slandering his name while he is off fighting a war in Iraq. To add insult to injury, when he comes home he may not be able to see his child; now he is fighting two wars.

Meanwhile, any extra money he would have had has gone to legal fees. Then when he comes home, he will have his name attached to a deprived child petition and have to fight to see his child all over again. I do not believe this is how our soldiers should be treated.

Well, something has gone terribly wrong in Lincoln County. We have heard that Lincoln County is one of the most corrupt counties in the state and now I believe it. I do not understand how a person in America can be tried in court, when they were not only out of state when the abuse happened, but were not present in court, was never served papers, and did not have council. Not to mention he was absent because he was called up to serve his country in a time of war.

Another court hearing was scheduled and it was decided, Ashley (Lance’s wife) could have five hours unsupervised visits every other Saturday. On August 19th, she went through a home visit evaluation and passed all the tests. However, the following morning, the DHHS worker called to say Kelsey had been in a car accident the night before, and her visit was canceled. She stated Kelsey was fine, and she had instructed Raye Dawn and Mike to take her to ER. They took her but got tired of waiting and left. Ashley was told her tummy was sore from the car seat, but that was the only problem. The following Saturday on August 27th the visit went on as planned. We were so excited to see her; we were expecting a happy healthy little Kelsey. We were shocked at what we saw. She had lost weight, had retinal hemorrhaging, sores in her mouth, bruises down one side of her face and left arm and appeared heavily medicated. Her condition was so frail; we felt she was not up to all of the other six Grandchildren coming over for a visit. We even cut our visit a little short so she could spend some one on one time with Ashley. We immediately started contacting the state workers in charge of her case. We were told it was the car accident that caused the injuries eight days before and the eye problem was due to allergies or seizures. We did not buy this since the bruises were still blue and seemed fresh. Many members of our family contacted DHS with concerns and we sent research on retinal hemorrhaging to question their diagnosis. The following week Kelsey’s pediatrician, the sister to Raye Dawn’s attorney, wrote a letter to the Judge stating Kelsey should not be transported between the two families; an emergency hearing to dissolve the visits were scheduled.

This same week Ashley told Lance she wanted a divorce and did not attend the hearing. Once Ashley was out of the picture, we no longer had a way to find information concerning Kelsey, as Grandparents do not have rights. Lance had already been injured in an accident in Iraq, and after the news of his divorce, he was allowed to come home a month early. He was devastated with that news but he knew he still had his little girl and was making plans for the two of them. He was in Ft. Benning GA, just days from his homecoming, when we got the call that Kelsey had died. Raye Dawn and Mike stated Kelsey had a seizure. When the autopsy came back, the death was ruled a homicide. The cause was blunt blow to the abdomen. Her stepfather, Mike Porter now sits in jail on first-degree murder charges, and the investigation is still pending. Mike Porter has filed for a divorce, from Raye Dawn, from jail. She is pregnant, and still under investigation. My son has filed a Tort Notice to the state of Oklahoma, letting them know he wants all documents concerning Kelsey. This is the first step for a civil suit in which he is asking for an excess of $15,000,000 and a complete overhaul of the DHHS system.

When Kelsey died everyone wanted to talk to us. Pott. County DHS called and wanted us to come in so they could open an investigation, but it was to little to late. So many people could have made a difference and they chose not to. People in the business of helping abused children ignored this child, but maybe because they let Kelsey down they will listen when the next child cries for help. When Kelsey was born months after her parents were divorced, I knew she must have a purpose and I wondered what it was. When my son was sent to war I feared he was not coming home and her purpose was for him to live on through her. Lance came home and Kelsey was the one who did not make it. That is when I knew her purpose; it is to send a message for change in our state and to save other children. We need new laws; we need an agency with authority over DHHS. Grandparents need rights to fight for these children when their parents are not capable of making good decisions. While my son was at war trying to protect the rights of another country, his own rights and those of his child were violated. This tragedy that could have been prevented has forever devastated our family. We did everything we could within the law, and the system failed Kelsey. Our elected officials could have and should have taken action when they heard our cries, if we do not have their attention now, they should not be re-elected. I ask each of you to take the time to write or call your state officials and ask them what they intend to do to help the helpless in our state. It is to late to save Kelsey, but there are hundreds of children in homes today with broken bones and bruises that were not accidents. Not only should the perpetrator be held accountable, but everyone who had knowledge of the abuse and those who failed to help as well.

We had a rally today at the state capital. We had children take empty wrapped gifts and place them under the state Christmas tree. Fifty-two, which represents how many children we lost to child abuse last year; plus Kelsey. I was a little hesitant about it, was worried people might think we were doing anything to get on TV, but really it was a message to our Governor. I don’t like putting my Grandchildren on TV to much. I would like to shield them from this, but the children at school did not allow that option. All in all, it went okay and the children were fine and happy to do something to help other children like Kelsey.

child abuse(kelsey brigg's story) a sad story you could never forget

This was a very difficult story to put together, and I was recently informed by the family that Kelsey was also sexually abused. This is a horrible story, but unfortunately not an isolated case. Child protective/family service agencies across the country have let many children down. We need to have someone look over the shoulders of these agencies and courts to make sure cases like this do not happen in the future. My heart goes out to the whole family, but I cannot imagine what it is like to risk your life for your country and have this happen to your child, and you, while you are fighting a war for the very people responsible.





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Published in Life & Lifestyle   Jul 6 2008 07:05 pm

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Jul 6 2008 08:20 pm

What a sad sad story .. my own little grandchildren are in the California CPS system from abuse of their mother ... I pray this family finds peace ...


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Jul 6 2008 08:40 pm

thank you so much for the comment this girl was my life and i loved her to death and i listen to the song concrete angel and it reminds me of her...


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Jul 6 2008 08:57 pm

I can understand (((Hugs)))
I doubt I will ever see my own g-kids ..she placed my son in jail and left them with a pedifile in CA.. the state has them now and my son has been "told" to let them go .. its not fair for us eh? our next generations gone ... Be Well


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Jul 6 2008 09:03 pm

thank you and im so srry.. i know how u feel... :)


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Emo
Jul 6 2008 09:29 pm

That's just like how the cops were w/my mom and chad!She had 3 concusions!
And me and my sis were also hit.


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Jul 6 2008 09:30 pm

im so sorry what happend


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Emo
Jul 6 2008 09:35 pm

it aint notin im use 2 it by now.


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Jul 6 2008 09:37 pm

ya mw too...


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rdy
Jul 15 2008 11:59 am

Very sad...Still wondering why people can do such thing to weak / small human being? Where is the hate coming from? Those crazy people do not realize that they will only get credit if they do it to strong and powerful ones not to the weak ones such as baby or little children or girls / women. Very imbicile!


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Jul 15 2008 02:57 pm

thnk u for commenting that girl i just cant get over she was my step cousin... and i miss her so much


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Ineye
rdy
Jul 20 2008 05:59 am

It just surprised me a lot that such tragedy can happen in the US! I may understand if it happens in third-world undeveloped country. But anyway, human are basically the same everywhere... There are some good ones, and bad ones. Stay strong...


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Nov 4 2008 10:43 pm

the sad story


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Anonymous
Apr 28 2009 10:33 am

wow after reading all of that an then seeing the picture i started to tear up a little bit


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Aug 31 2009 01:19 pm

I am doing research on BOTH sides of this case and I suggest EVERYONE do the same b/c the grandmother Kathie Briggs and her son are not innocent like this article and So many others portray. The grandmother, gave her own children to DCF when they were younger, and she told them if they didn't take them she would kill them, Kelseys' mom left Kelseys dad becasue he repeatedly beat her, and has been since arrested for the same behavior with dfferent women. Each time DCF was called on Raye (Kelseys Mom)..the gramdother had her also earlier in the day. The Briggs (kelseys dads family) have some serious questions regarding their morals, for insance the grandma illegally took money for kelseys death, and since the website she set up has been took down. Kelsey was taken out of the grandmothers care as well b/c the judge thought SHE herself was the one hurting Kelsey-- and DCF agreed because Kelsey threw fits around the grand parents, she bit, cried, screamed adn even tried to run from them; however, no behavior like this was seen while supervised visits with Kelseys mother. ALSO...when Kelsey was murdered her mother wasn't even in the home. Kelsey was taken out of her grandmothers house (her fathers mother) because she started to self mutilate, pulling her own hair out and biting herself WHILE in her grandmothers care with NO visitatin from her mother. ONCE she was taken out of this atmosphere adn put in with her other grandmother (her mothers mom) she began thriving. Now, with all this info -- there IS a reasonable doubt and therefore this case needs to be looked into even further. WHILE ALIVE THIS LITTLE GIRL TRIED TO TELL US THE BEST WAY SHE COULD, BUT SCREAMING BITING AND TRYING TO RUN FRON HER GRANDMOTHER; noone listened, .... now we need, to before another injustice is made and an innocent woman is left behind bars!!! FURTHERMORE, the fathers mother (kathie briggs) has fought to help the man who is in jail for killin her granddaughter to get out sooner by plea bargaining saying kelseys mother knew he was absuing her and never stopped it...OMG, why would she do that - she should not want the man who killed (supposedly) her granddaughter to plea baragin!!! It just makes me question her motives even further. She is hell bent on keeping the mother in jail and she wasn't even home when kelsey died AND Kelsey never once had displaced emotions towards her mother. I have been researching this for DAYS and many sleepless nights have determined that there is no way this woman got a fair trial :( RIP Kelsey, I hope that justice will pervail and that the truth of the ppl hurting you comes out in the end so u CAN rest in peace!!! xo


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katera
Sep 1 2009 09:16 am

i hope the mother and stepfather rot in the devil way


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Oct 12 2009 01:52 pm

I totally appreciate your input!! IT seems soooo one sided, and you made me see a different spin on this. But....the sexual abuse? Where the fuck did that come from??? I am guessing the person that had her in their care..the step dad... I just think based on what you have said they are all twisted and that yes the Grandparents and his side of the family were abusive, twisted or deceitful and that contributed big time, .......therefore the poor little girl had no good place to be maybe , maybe it was terrible on both sides of the family...and with the stepfather in the mix or being the main abuser the mother was too weak too act out against him and the others...and went along with the excuses he and everyone else including herself made! its wrong and sick but yes, the end of the story justice and care was sooooo not in place in this matter...not at all! It disgusts me and brings me to tears., and I think everyone forgets too easiley.....and the sexual abuse??!! that hasn't even been hardly spoken of!! That poor beautiful darling child went through hell!!!! Think about it and if you know of anyone or any child...or even suspect......what are you going to do about it???? DO SOMETHING, REPORT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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deborah
Oct 27 2009 08:46 pm

That little angel is in God's arms right now, no one can hurt her anymore!


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Nov 4 2009 07:24 am

ME AND MY MOM BOTH WENT THROUGH SEXUAL ABUSE. OUR FAMILY SHUNNED US. I STOOD UP TO THEM CALLED POLICE AND HAD MYSELF AND SIBLINGS REMOVED. MY MOM PASSED BUT MY SIBLINGS AND I ARE DOING BETTER.


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nixxo pixxo!
Nov 28 2009 01:53 pm

wow very sad. wat is going on ppl r so sick these dayzz!


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Ashley weat.
Jan 23 10:18 pm

holy crap im so sorry bout that being your cousin to and like holy crap we should al do some reserch beacause like thee other gal said this was not only the mother.. my personally though is that kathey briggs the grandmother also had something to do with this i mean seriously i may be blond but when it come to this.. that is just stupid........RIP RIP RIP RIP RIP RIP XOXOXOOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOOXOXOXOXOXXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX


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